Take him and make him spend time with u

we've been so many years in relation with many guys,
but somehow some persons have
problem of how to attract the guy we like.
especially for some man who inconfident with himself.
but i dont know if this tips will work or not.
but you just might give it a try.



Hit the gym. i know this is a hard decision to go to gym for
some guys, included me. but this not only does it get in great shape,
which attracts other men, but also helps build self esteem. not only a gym,
just running if one doesnt like to go to gym,
this also could make us having a better confident, trust me.
with the confidence, we will make it easier to go out and talk to new and exciting gay men. coz people dont like fat guy. thanks God i'm not fat.

Dressing. to impress even if we‘re just out of grocery shopping.
It might sound stereotypical to say that gay men want a man who looks good,
but it’s often true. you could try wearing a black tank top with a nice jeans and white shoes. or just look of what other men are wearing to clubs and
try to wear what you think is good to wear or ask for help from your friends.

perfume, if you have already wearing a cool cloth, but also dont forget
this one. the cologne. fragrance makes other man look at you.
what you spray to your cloth sometimes represent your taste in sex, charisma,
also the sensuality of you.
for me i love fragrance kinda Giorgio armani - Acqua di Gio
or KENZO COLOGNE that are all refreshing, aquatic fragrance and masculine scent
and Hugo Perfume [Hugo Boss for Man] also a good aroma:
but some people dont like the smell like Emporio Armani Eau De Toilette Spray
just spray a little to cloth, that makes other feel your presence.

Learn the basics of flirting:



The best way to do this is through trial and error,
trying things out to see what works and what doesn’t.
After you flirt with a few different men,
you’ll be able to see what works for your situation and what attracts men to you.

Pick up some dance moves. You can spend part of the night hiding out
in the corner to see what other people are doing,
as long as you spend the rest of your night on the dance floor.
The better you dance, the more guys will notice you and feel attracted to you.
but do ot exagerating! coz it makes others barf.



Touch as often as possible.
People love to be touched and guys are no exception.
Rubbing your hand across his back,
letting your hand linger during a handshake and
giving a small hug are great ways to show a man you’re interested.

knowledge. take more watch tv especially on what's happening
to the world [news], also all gay news,
besides the sports coverage of course.
most man loves to watch soccer, car and motor racing.

games. make urself more expert on
basket, billiard, skate, soccer, badminton
or any other sports that most favorited in ur place.
for Indonesia, most man love billiard, basket ball, badminton
and soccer of course. i love play soccer with my friends.

that's all, that's what you need to do.
no matter how ugly you are
it is the key to attract other guy

Chart of Acitivities

Burn fat. having plan of getting better look
or get the calories burnt
by doing some sports or exercise.
i will choose run than any exercise.
but how do we know what exercises and activities are
going to give us the biggest bang for the calorie-burn buck?



I have put together a list of various activities to give you an idea of
how each affects your burn. Sitting still (aka at rest),
most people expend roughly 1-2 calories per minute,
depending on your body weight, sex, etc.
I have included both activities that burn a lot of calories,
and also a separate chart that shows activities that don’t burn very many

and also check out these 2 other tables:

Happy New Year

"Happy New Year Everyone! hope it is a good year to begin a new days. May all of the joy and healthy be yours."

i'm homed this morning. and i feel good, did the new year eve in Singapore.
i and my bf stayed in Atrium Singapore Hotel at outram street. it was so beautiful scene from our room. and as i know, in the capital of Indonesia:
Jakarta City has also a big and beautiful hotel "Sahid Jaya Hotel"
right in the middle of city,
also Menara Peninsula Hotel (Peninsula Tower Hotel)
This hotel has great staff, very friendly and eager to help,
also located near to the airport, about 30 minutes taxi ride
(subject to traffic condition), also to the largest upscale shopping mall and
condominium complex in Southeast Asia:

"Taman Anggrek Mall"
(Orchid Garden Mall)



The shopping mall's Southeast Asia's largest shopping mall when opened in 1996.
The mall is nestled within eight residential towers and houses more than 500
specialized stores, spread within six floors covering a retail space of 360,000 square meters.

so if u visit jakarta city, dont forget to stay in these hotels
also to visit the Taman Anggrek Mall (Orchid Garden Mall)
Orchid = Anggrek
Garden/Park = Taman

ok, back to Singapore,
this country is a true melting pot, home to people of Chinese,
Malay and Indian descent, with a significant population of
non-citizen residents (temporary workers and ex-pats)
from countries as diverse as Korea, Japan, the UK, the US, the Philippines, Bangladesh and Indonesia.

There's a vibrant conglomeration of cultures here, with colorful ethnic pockets (remnants of Raffles' segregated urban plan) such as Chinatown, Little India and Arab Street. Singaporeans enjoy a high standard of living, with a plethora of cultural and social advantages.

This country is known for the quality, diversity and abundance of its dining options.­ indeed, Singaporeans embrace the offerings of street vendors' traditional Asian fare as well as upscale restaurants serving refined European cuisine.

Nightlife is rapidly becoming world-class, with numerous establishments grouped along the river at Boat Quay and Clarke Quay. And for its size, Singapore has an amazing number of attractions, including a wide variety of museums, zoos, the world's largest ferris wheel, and even an indoor ski resort, included any facilities for gays such as sauna or spa.
you could c the macho indian man, handsomes there, believe me! and also, for gambler fans, two glamorous casino resorts will be opened in 2009 there.

so you could enjoy everything there
as your money could bring you to that satisfaction!

To the Airport today

i will be in airport at 1 o'clock WIB.
addressing to Kuala lumpur city.
as i mentioned before i will be in Malaysia.
my plan was to celebrate the Chrismas eve there,
was canceled. but still i will be there in Malaysia
for vacation and also to Singapore for New year eve.
so i wont do posting in this blog until new year 1 January.

Merry Christmas

"forgive us our traspasses
as we forgive those who traspassed against us.
give us this day our daily bread"

In celo et in Tera, fiat voluntas tua, GLORIA! ESPIRITUI SANCTO

Merry Christmas everyone.
i'm very busy today for the preparation
on this special day.
i shall go to the Kathedral
in my place for the Misa (prayer)

i and my friends rico, Indra, and jonathan are comming with me
to celebrate this christmas in church[Kathedral].
including my bf, he comes here yesterday to join the Christmas
pray in Kathedral with me and my friends.

we are all in the same way of lifestyle.
rico also got a bf. but the rests is single.
we known indra and jonathan in kathedral.
and rico is my classmate in high school.
but ever since we were graduated from high school, we drifted apart.
and becoz i've got a job that make me be faraway from
my hometown, so i lose all their track.

only this year i call him and also indra and jonathan.
to join the christmas event in kathedral.
this day only for christmas.

thanks Jesus Christ for ur kindness, for your love to us
of these favors such as healthy, prosperous and our job this year
goes well eventually.
and hope all bless also be yours.

"God loves us. God love us with no conditions.
we are all precious in His Eyes"
Glory Divine!
Halleluya!

Duggar family

Michelle Duggar celebrates Mother’s Day in a much bigger way than any of us
mom’s could imagine. She has announced baby eighteen is on the way.
The 41-year old mom [2008], says she’s thrilled the new addition
will join the seven sisters and 10 brothers. For Mother’s Day,
the kids got together to get mom some pearls with matching pearl earrings.
Dad got her a ring.“We’re enjoying them so much and we would love more,
so the lord has seen fit to give us another one and we’re just thankful,”
Duggar said. At 20, the oldest Duggar child is Josh. Jennifer is
the youngest at 9-months. All the children’s names start with
the letter “J” and all are home-schooled.



This is a special image of a big family ever in the world. may be at ancient time, in Main land China. or even in my country, in the country side. there still many family which has many children. but in big cities of most countries in the world they dont want it, included my place Bandung City, and Jakarta - The capital.
'coz it spends much money. But personally, if i could, if i can having marriage with a girl someday. i would also have many children, but not that much. i could be so very stress of taking care children.



but the most stress in family must be my wife. you know why?
it is because she will wonder, wonder of:
"why my sons love to see penis?"
("of course like me" i have to proudly say it to myself) hahaha, just kidding.
i dont know if i can have sex with woman or not? i just dont have desire with woman even if there is a naked woman infront of me. well, ok, let's check out for more pics on this family by click in here

My man's comming out

Declaration.
OMG! this is the fearest thing ever in my life.

i dont know what's my parents' respond if i said
"mom, dad. i'm a gay. i love my boyfriend, and i'm gonna married with him"
what to expect of doing this?
being discriminated from family?
nope, i dont think it is necesarry.
in my life i just live my life
i just do my best of what i will pass through.
and in this movie below, i feel so sorry for that girl.

let's check out:

Honeymoon Travels Pvt Ltd
India Movie-Bollywood

Upcoming Travel, December 2008

Christmast is something special in my life.
besides the religious day, it is also a party day
for me and my friends hang out together.
when i was in high school.
i had to put aside money for this christmas eve.
so i could go camp with my friends.
:D

and this year christmas
i will celebrate christmas in Malaysia, kuala lumpur city.
i and my bf will take the vacation around malaysia and
and pass the new year eve in Singapore.

well i guess, in North America, Mexico city could be
an alternative place to spend your Christmas eve or new year eve.

Shapes makes differences

What a good lookin guys on pictures above.
we could say handsome? hot? cool? comely? fair?
or just call it as "suitable"?
some said it is "pleasing and impressive or dignified appearance"
or might be a elegance

all this words just represent one's feeling or respond
on something or someone he sees as good looking.
when i'm asked by someone if ricky martin is handsome?
i would say yes he is, but other's respond would be not.
it is just conventional truth about outside or appearance.



but on the other hand, what really make me feel or sense
the beauty, handsome, lovely, cute, cool, hot or macho.
that's actually non-other than inner, the inside part.
more mature poeple (not based on age, but wider insight about himself)
is actually handsome.

people would notice man's shape of face
Round, Oval, Square, and Heart.
but i would notice 5 things on man's appearance:

his eyes,

his nose,

lips,

his abdomen,

and face's shape like this:


and the question that crossing our mind sometimes...
why we are not like the face in the picture above?
ha... this is real problem if we ever thinking about this.
and the answer is...
"only God knows"
or may be karma or
briefly Divina obsesión (Divine's will)
and also DNA problem
some people may be feel unfair
but it's what father and mother give us

Devoid of covering

naked could be an expression of
love, a protest, a request, and sensuality.
in particular exposing the bare skin or intimate parts.

Society's response to public nudity varies on the culture, time, location and context of the activities. There are many exceptions and particular circumstances in which nudity is tolerated, accepted or even encouraged in public spaces. Such examples would include nude beaches, within some intentional communities (such as naturist resorts or clubs) and at special events, but definitely not Indonesia! whatever of special events. it is illegal!
so dont show off ur penis at any beach in here. or u go to jail!


Parental nudity is a controversial issue, There are differences of opinion as to whether, and if so to what extent, parents should appear naked in front of their children. i dont care if my mom and daddy are getting naked at home,
when i was a child we were taking bath together
with my mom and daddy, i liked to splattering water to them, it was so fun.

i was notice his public hair, and wonder.
i asked my mom about this, and my mom said
"you're gonna have it in adult age as ur daddy has now"

from my perception, naked is something natural,
i'm naked in my own room sometimes.
my mom said to me
when i was about 9 years old, i refused to get cloth when she was trying to put my school uniform on, i threw it on the floor.
she told me "you will be more handsome with this uniform"
whereupon i get dress whenever i'm out.


i have the though basic instinct to be naked.
i feel freedom and kinda has a closer connection to the universe
to the nature.
may be, i will get naked before i die.
like Santo Francisco (St. Francis) did
before his death on Saturday, October 3, 1226.

hi...

thanks to everyone who visit this page.
i made this blog first of all i dedicate it to my bf in faraway city - bogor.
it takes a lot of time to make everything's fine [this blog],
coz i'm here in bandung city (one of the biggest gay community of indonesia)
besides posting and arrange this blog, i also do my routinity such as my job.
i arrange what's best for my blog. Hopefully, my bf could also enjoy opening this blog.

and about the interior, i convert the previous page into this new look, i'm happy that my bf like it. and hope people who visit my blog also could enjoy this.
my postings are not only about porn and naked things, but also any other stuff that could make us laugh like spoof videos i found on internet, some healthy information, books, movies or any information that i need to know.

and about the visitor, i knew that some of you are not gay

i'm so very sorry for the visitor who are
woman or straight man

who unintentionally led into this blog, may be by searching the information you need on the google searchbox hope you are not offense by this coincidental.

in my spare time, i always open some gay bloggers site. the interesting blogs or websites i visit are such as:
Hotmenchart
(by the vietnamese which always posting hot guys pictures and also hot videos),
tiggah tigz(filipino, he is a cute guy),
Ehirano blog [he post lovely and creative pictures there in his blog],
and any other websites (like Adam Bouska's) i must admitted that my blog is still far distance to reach category as the best blog ever made like theirs!
included the content of postings,
my english is too poor to express my feeling into english.
may be it's still "a long way to go" to speak english fluently.
haha.... i'm still a beginner in english.

and about what i idolize, it's been
the Damon
ex fretmen member.
he's great and perfect idol for me.


and also i admire porn stars like
johnny harden for his perfect body and perfect penis.
The cute/handsome: Jeremy east and cezaro.
i wonder how they maintain their health [i mean fit]
to make his gun keep aroused?
i feel tired after finish the 3rd or 4rd round with my bf.
ha....
but they are paid for the proportional price


like Tim Evanson [gay correspondent] said:
"In gay porn, actors usually make more money than their male hetero porn counter parts. According to statements made by gay porn stars in Dave Kinnick's SORRY I ASKED, the average gay porn star makes about $500-800 per film, whether it's one scene or several. Some gay porn stars, such as Joey Stefano and Ryan Idol and Jeff
Stryker, have claimed to make up to $1,500 per picture due to their star drawing power. Newcomer gay porn star Dave York says that salaries for newbies to gay porn now run around $1,000 per picture, and the Adam Film World Gay Video 1995 Directory says that Ryan Idol commands upwards of $10,000 per movie now"

What really annoys you?

what i'm thinking for several times that bothers me alot.
this is very annoying thing when i have lunch at a restaurant in mall
or any buffet restaurant where crowded are there.
a lot of people have to line up for taking a meat or any other things
but suddenly some teenagers with unguilty feeling just interlard in the front
after i've been lining up for about 10 minutes.
"what the hell is he doin?" i said to myself.
but i cant help.

so... theres my thing. what really annoys you?

Sleep

oh! everytime thinkin of this! really fear of myself. sleep at 2 o'clock in dawn, get up at 7 in the morning. i feel i'm less of sleeping,plus the stress in the job.
i'm getting more easy of tired, uninspired, loss of spirit, less of concentration/focusing, and sometimes could get headache this happened since my new job. i always feel listless at the work time. may be i should
quit from this job with the consequence losing the chance of working in national oil company for the sake of my health.

This is the hard option.
meanwhile i have to choose the best for my future or my health?
I found this article about sleep and i understand now how important
sleeping. i was always ignoring sleeping before. i just dont care about
this thing, as long as i'm happy hanging out with my buds, and doing what i like.

A Glass of Tea

as the time goes by, still live in my memory
the unforgettable moment with my best friend.
besides my bf, i always care and feel that this person also
important in my life.

he's always there for me when i needed something
even the hardest help that may be most people wont do even to his best friend
but he would give a hand to me, like when i needed money, or any other help.
and of course i wont disapointed him in return.
this guy, he, is a faithful person, amaiable, and friendly.

high school time is the best part
coz we were at the same school in bandung city.
he is cute, cheerful person and smart.
he never give up about what is he doin at school,
except the english subject.
he doesnt like english, until now.
he said english bore him, and really hard to understand.
but he's good at math (matematica), physic, finance and accountancy subject.

i always joke him, and he never offense.
sometimes we hang out with other friends
going somewhere like cafe where we could sitting & chatting and
really savor our time alltogether.

but the best part, still feel alive and clearly remember is
when i visited his home.
his house is a small house and just simple house.
i close to his family as they do feel towards me.
we are just like a family.

he always ask me
"andy, i'll make u a glass of iced tea, would u?"
asked him with full of friendly speaking
"sure"
i said to him.

this tea, although it's just a common tea
but u know, when he's offering this to me,
i felt really like at home,
this simply drink, leave a profound meaning to me and to us.

after graduated from high school
he went to the capital, jakarta, for a job
in insurance company then later on he's got a job at international korean company.
meanwhile i'm still stuck in here, bandung.
and he's been in jakarta till now.
but we are always contact each other.
by email or handphone(cellphone)
asking eachother about what's goin on with our life?

once, i asked him about this "tea moment"
i wrote a writing about our gathering in the past time
and the tea moment in my previous blog.
and i copy the message to his email,
he was thrilled by it, and say thanks to me.
i was almost cry about it.
ha ha.... a bit sentimental.

i miss you my friend.
wish a best fortune for ur life.
and success in ur career

Why you are not rich?

yahoo finance providing this tips
that may be could effective to some people.
But just simple fact.
people are not rich, becozzzz:
1. they are prodigal, improvident, lavish [ free and easy ]
2. they spend all their money with their beloved one without resting some.
3. they dont want to understand of what they are doing in their job.
i mean some people do their job just because it is oblidged.
so he loses some chances that could be is the extra income for him.
4. they are too Zen person. man,
too kind is not really kind, and too bad is not really nice
5. they are too fuzzy and fretful
they dont like to do this and that job.
they lose a good chance.
6. they lack of imagination. astray, less of idea.
they can not be a entrepreneur

that's all. people could get rich because they have passion, an ambition
of learning a lot about everything, know how to use the opportunity and
what he has, also the adventurous.
nothing in this world of mankind could get this thing of what we call
"RICH"
beside the passion,ambition,imagination, the depiction of what he will do.
and stay away from everykind of gambling game.

one more thing of what i concern based on what i saw all this time.
beside gambling is drug, and the rest is dirty thing(unafaithful/floozy)
could ruin ur fortune.

most chinese people here[probably, west people likewise], love gambling game.
they bet everything even their house and their wealth.
so some careless people could be a beggar after losing their "rich" tittle
in casino. :)
what a pity person.

ok i had to finish the the survey.
this survey i made based on my curiosity on man.
well just simple question but sometimes could cross my mind,
and some questions that questioned to me in my life,
such as my mom's been asking me about my girlfriend.
Oops! sorry mom! i only love my bf.

most people agree that first thing we see from a man,
is face. handsome or good looking is the 1# priority for most gay
at the first sight.
nipple piercing, i feel a big guy who's got his nips pierced is hot.
but based on the survey from 37 people who participated
mostly dont like nips piercing but adore tattoo on man's arm.

and all the thing about love affair included size and loyality.
anyway thanks to whom you participated in this survey.

Last Weekend

Entering the new world



last weekend
is the time for me gathering with my friends
my homo friends, i mean, at our best place to meet.
& i of course was there with my bf.

we were chatting, laughing, and really savor our time alltogether.
and the nice thing i heard was
my friend introduced me, this guy, Thomas,
about 173 cm or 175 cm height, and 60 kg, about 5.1" size.
is a ,well let me say that he is Bi-sexual.
but prefer to a gay side.
he likes man much more than girl.

he told me about his experiance
of havin' 1# gay sexual intercourse.
he went to some places like gay sauna.
he found guys he adore there
and then he went to a special room for havin' sex.


he had no idea what a pain sensation for the very first
time havin anal sex, and also senses the sensation of
sucking dick, "i like sucking dick" he said to me.
and then he let those 2 guys' penis penetrate his ass.

he shocked of what was goin on. the painfull.
and he felt like there was a shit there
in his hole,
or let me say it is a "colic"?
or something like "stomach upset".

he asked his partner to stop it.
"i wanna go to restroom"
"i'm going to defecate"

first thing his partner do was checking on his penis
"no, there is no feces here"

and in the restroom,
he was doin' nothing.
becoz what he felt is just a pain.
not to defecate.


i ask him "why you visit that kind of place? why dont you find a boyfriend?
and experiance more adventure of havin' anal sex than to go to the public place like gay sauna?"
"i dont like that kind of boyfriend thing"
well up to you.
but he is real cute guy,
nice body (not mascular but also not tiny)

haha...... what an experiance!
althogh he began with well i guess stupid curiosity
but anyway, thomas, welcome to a gay world.

The fact about Homosexuality

Pretty scientific article about gender fact. that for some reason we sometimes could think of it. but somehow, a man, who once ever like or having desire or passion to also same sex, man, would never forget about his beautiful moment with, forever. and i think there is no solution. i believe it is natural case. nature made us like this.
and our mind push up our desire to make it happen.
no one ever 100% switch themself to be a totally straight.
there is still some part of his soul exist the passion towards other man,
although they could say "ok i'm straight now"

well, just take a look at this following article.

FACT ABOUT GAYNESS

Being attracted to someone who is your same sex is talked
about frequently today. Same sex attraction refers to
sexual feelings for someone of your own sex.
It can also mean a desire to be physically and
emotionally close to others of your own sex
as much as or more so than the opposite sex.


You can feel like being physically close and
affectionate without ever doing anything sexual with a person.
These feelings do not make you gay, lesbian or bisexual,
but they may be confusing to you.
People who have same sex attraction are often referred to as homosexual.


However, having same sex attractions or engaging in same sex relations does not make you a homosexual. You probably did not decide to have same sex attractions but you can decide whether to label yourself homosexual. You may find this hard to believe but the word "homosexual" is just over 100 years old. The term was first used in 1869 by a writer in Germany who was fighting against the passage of a law that would make certain sexual acts illegal. Before the term was invented, there was no concept of a group of people known as gay or lesbian or bisexual. Same sex sexual activity has occurred throughout history but the concept of a person who was homosexual from birth did not exist until the 1860s in Europe.


If you think you are attracted to others of the same sex, you may be confused or frustrated but you are certainly not alone. Surveys over the past 50 years have shown that somewhere between 10-15% of adolescents report a same sex sexual experience. Many more possibly have attractions but never act on them. A recent study found that nearly 26% of young teens were not sure if they were gay, straight or bisexual. Most people experiencing sexual attraction to those of the same sex are confused by it.


Research shows that somewhere between 3-5% of adults think of themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual. See the difference in the numbers of adolescents who have had same sex feelings and actions and the number of adults that later think of themselves as gay? While some people do feel same sex attractions and then later think of themselves as gay, a large number of young people have these feelings and later think of themselves as straight. You have the option of not considering yourself gay even though you have some attractions to the same sex. Even if these attractions seem strong now, they often change as one ages.


The following comments were made by young people directly to the author:

David, age19, said:
I think it's important to separate talk of same sexual attraction from talk of sexual behavior. I believe strongly that you can have real intimacy with people of the same sex and not sexualize it. Over the past several years, I've actually had more intimacy with men than with women, but none of it was sexual in nature.

Sandra, 21, said:
I have had attraction to girls for a long time and I have gone back and forth calling myself a lesbian and then rejecting that label. I now don't think of myself as a lesbian. I have learned that there are many reasons one may feel same sex attraction and I don't believe that for me it means I am obligated to become or live as a lesbian.


Do I have to decide anything about
these same sex attractions now?

No, you do not have to decide how to label your sexuality until you are ready.
You may not know what to call your sexual feelings.
There is no need to rush into a decision about labeling yourself.
This is true all throughout your adolescent and young adult years.
Some well meaning people, teachers or counselors may have told you
that young people are "coming out" as gay or lesbian as young as 12 or 13.
While there may be some young people who feel rushed into such labeling,
it is unwise to do so. Sexual feelings develop over a long period of time.
Most teens are very aware of their bodies and sexual feelings throughout
this time of life. Your sexual hormones are active in you in ways
they have never been before and so your sexual feelings
may be quite strong but not really focused. This is normal.


Because sexual feelings are influenced so much by
hormones and experiences you have,
they are not necessarily enduring or accurate indicators of whom you love.
As you get older, you will become better able to tell the difference
between being sexually attracted to someone and
being really in love with someone.
Believe it or not, research shows that long-term sexual
and marital adjustment is best for those who wait to have sex
until they also can tell if they are in love and ready for long term commitment.


Also, because sexual feelings are changeable, they are not the best indicators of how you should organize your life. Some people suggest that you should try hanging out with others who identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual, read homosexually oriented books and even try thinking of yourself as gay, lesbian or bisexual as ways to find out who you are. Some people reason that if you are comfortable with trying out being gay or lesbian, you probably are gay or lesbian. While these people may mean well, these suggestions have some problems.

The "try it out" suggestion ignores the role of social factors such as peer pressure. Being with people who have similar feelings may lead you to downplay other important factors such as your future goals, religious beliefs and personal convictions. Trying out the idea that you might be gay or lesbian can lead you to the erroneous conclusion that you must be homosexual since you have attractions to the same sex. Remember, many people have same sex attraction in adolescence and later decide they are straight.

Probably the most important reason not to "try out" being gay is to avoid temptation to engage in risky sexual behavior. I have talked to many young people who regretted getting involved in sex too soon as a way to figure out who they are. If you have strong beliefs about what is right and wrong concerning sex, it is not harmful to live according to those beliefs rather than going by your sexual feelings. The only sure way to avoid disease and heartache is to wait until you are ready to commit to your lifetime mate.

Listen to some comments from other young people:

Jason, 17, said:

I hear all the time, 'you should just be yourself. If you have homosexual attractions, then accept your gayness and get on with it.' I don't buy that as a good reason to say I'm gay. What if my feelings told me to steal from you, should I be myself with you? I don't believe that it is morally right to be gay and I also don't think everything in life should revolve around sex.

Brian, 22, said:
I think I messed myself up by having sex with a guy in high school. I thought it would help me decide what I was but I felt awful later and more confused than ever.

Carrie, 18, said:
Its really good to know that even though I haven't had much attraction to the opposite sex by now, the lack of it doesn't mean I won't feel that way sometime in the future. What I really want is to have a family and husband and I see myself in that position. I just don't feel that jazzed about guys right now. Its makes me feel better to know that I don't have to have the same boy craziness that my friends do in order to fall in love with a man. After all, all I need is one.


Why do I have these feelings?

There are many psychologists and scientists who have theories about why some people feel affection and sexual attraction for their own sex. However, many of the theories are contradictory and the truth is, it is very hard to be sure why any given person feels same sex attraction. There are several theories that you have probably heard about.

One popular theory is that people are born gay. The theory says there are genes that control the surfacing and direction of sexual feelings. People who consider themselves gay, lesbian or bisexual are being who they are and should not try to live in conflict with their sexual feelings, kind of like people who are left handed should not try to become right handed.


Second, a variation of the idea that people are born gay is that hormones control sexual attractions. Some people believe that these chemicals affect the brains of people while developing pre-birth. The effect is to make the brains of some people more likely to feel same sex attraction.

A third view is that sexual attractions are learned through many different kinds of experiences while one is growing up. Early sexual experiences, being abused physically or sexually or being exposed to same sex pornography at an early age are examples of some types of shaping experiences.

A fourth popular view is that family environment and experiences shape sexual attractions. For instance, some former gay and lesbians believe that their emotional needs for a loving and close same sex parent drove them to look for love in a sexual manner from other people of their same sex.

Last, many psychologists and scientists believe that some combination of these previous theories might be true for many people and not true for others.
Let me repeat. Science or psychology has not proven any of these theories completely true or completely false. No gay gene has been discovered nor are there certain kinds of families that are always responsible for same sex attractions. For different people with same sex attraction, there may be some truth in each of these theories. For instance, as you read the theories, did you feel any of them were closer to your experience? All we really can say now is that it appears that the influences leading to feelings of same sex attraction are different for different people.

Whatever the reasons that influence the feelings you have, you are so much more than your sexual feelings. These feelings are only a part of your life and you are free to limit them by your beliefs if that is what you choose to do.

Listen to some more comments from other young people:

Eric, 22, said
I think for me having same sex attraction is because a male family member sexually abused me from a very early age. Although that's true for me, I know friends who never had that happen and they liked guys too.

Jordan, 18, said:
I always felt different from other guys. I never could get sports and didn't really want to. I like music and dancing and indoor stuff. I asked my dad if I could take dance lessons and he said, "only queers dance." So I thought I must be queer whatever that was. I think that my dad meant well but he made me feel inferior because I didn't like guy stuff.

Brock, 17, said:
I have no idea why I find guys attractive. My dad and I love each other get along great and I think girls are pretty but I don't feel what I think sexual feelings should be when I look at them. Most of the time I find guys more interesting but I don't believe I should act on my feelings. I believe God is very clear about how sex is to be and I am willing to wait until I am attracted to the opposite sex. Maybe I will be celibate; I don't know but I am sure about what God's standards are.

Ann Marie, 23, said:
Girls have always attracted me but I am not a lesbian. I say that because I believe being a lesbian is not an option for a Christian. I think that many people deal with many kinds of feelings that should not be put into action. So these feelings are unpleasant but so would the feelings of remorse if I deliberately went against what I know to be true. Being true to God is more important for me than being true to my sexual feelings.

Rachel, 20, said:
I think me having attractions towards girls is because the main kindness I have known is from women. When I was a senior in high school, an older woman from my church befriended me and I got a real crush on her. Unfortunately, she struggled with lesbianism too and she seduced me. I was very confused about this but now I see that anyone can have problems and I don't have to be what I feel. I really believe now that being attracted to women is not the best for me and I am working on establishing healthy relations with men.

Are there health risks associated with same sex attraction?

You may have heard some scary statistics about the health risks of being gay. By giving you the facts on this CD, no one is trying to scare you but rather to help you make good choices about your behavior.

The primary health risk associated with feeling attracted to the opposite sex may involve a greater risk for symptoms of depression. Studies just looking at people who have never acted on their attractions are new. We need more of these kinds of studies.

However, and this is important, the risks associated with having sex with someone of your own sex are significantly greater. In other words, if you don't act on your feelings of same sex attraction, you can avoid almost all of the health risks associated with homosexuality. This is true of any health risks associated with any kind of sexual behavior, however, the problems you avoid may be greater when considering homosexuality.

According the Journal of Public Health, the rates of HIV/AIDS among gay males has increased 14% since 1999. HIV stands for human immunodeficiency virus and it is the virus that leads to Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS). AIDS is incurable and the drugs that are on the market to relieve its symptoms have devastating side effects. The rates of syphilis and gonorrhea have also risen significantly among gay males. Most of the transmission of these diseases can be explained by unwise sexual behavior.

Some people will tell you that you can avoid AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases by using a condom. While this may be somewhat helpful, it is not as protective for certain sexual behaviors, such as anal intercourse. Frankly, the body was not made for anal intercourse and condoms can tear leaving the persons involved open to disease from HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, and anal cancer. Let me repeat, condoms are not always effective. Not all men who identify as gay engage in anal intercourse, but apparently enough of them do to cause the recent sharp rise in new cases of AIDS, syphilis and gonorrhea.

At least one study found that lesbians have health risks than non-lesbian women. Higher rates of depression, suicidal thinking, drug and alcohol use and obesity have been associated with those identifying as lesbian.


Some people say that the reason gays and lesbians are subject to more depression and other mental health problems is because of the disapproval of society. While name calling and being hateful to anyone is wrong for other reasons, societal disapproval may not be the culprit for the problems homosexuals face. For instance, the rates of depression and mental health problems for homosexuals are greater than heterosexuals in the Netherlands, even though that culture is one of the most gay-friendly cultures in the world. Until we know more about the link between identifying as gay, lesbian or bisexual and mental health and health problems, it seems safe to say that there are risks associated with organizing your life and sexual behavior around same sex attractions and feelings.

What can I do now?

When reading information like this, some people are relieved and simply focus on other things besides sexual matters, waiting for later to deal with it. Others still want to be more active in confronting the issue. Whatever your reaction, here are some things you can do about same sex attraction.

Continue reading more on the subject. The information here is an introduction and is up to date but you may want to explore various points further. At the end of this article, there are some additional resources for you to examine.


Talk to someone you trust and who is reasonably unbiased and objective. Truthfully it is hard to find someone who is objective on the issue of same sex attraction and homosexuality. However, look for someone who is able to handle emotional subjects without flipping out. Ideally, you should talk to your parents but if you are afraid to do this, then consider a youth leader, a teacher, or a friend's parent. Remember there are those who will tell you that having same sex attraction automatically means you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. These are probably not objective people on this subject because they ignore the many people who have changed their sexual feelings or who prefer to live in accordance with their beliefs.

Consider attending a support group meeting. Later on the Truth Comes Out CD there are stories from people who have experienced change in their sexual feelings. Often counseling or attending a support group is a part of that change. A place on the Internet you can look for support group meeting is Exodus International.

Consider counseling to help you figure out more about yourself and your options. Some counselors will tell you that you have no alternative to consider yourself gay, lesbian or bisexual and others will tell you that you can change your attractions and/or live with your sexual feelings and still become more interested in the opposite sex. You should ask the counselor before you begin talking what his or her beliefs are so you know what you are getting into.


Develop other parts of your life. Sex is important but so are career and school, activities and hobbies. Do not get out of balance by letting concern over sexuality dominate every other aspect of your life.

Remember the distinction between being tempted to do something and doing it. If you are a religious person, you may feel guilt over feeling things you wouldn't approve of if you did them. Remember even Jesus was tempted.
Listen now to some final comments made by young people:

Jessica, 22, said:
I am really glad I could talk to you about these things. I was afraid my parents would freak if I told them. It was really helpful to be able to share my thoughts and feelings without feeling judged.

Steve, 21, said:
I never thought I would see myself as a heterosexual. I really didn't have much hope for this working out but thankfully it did. I can honestly say I am not bothered by my sexual feelings. I still sometimes think a guy is good looking or something but I don't have any desire at all to jump into bed with him.

In conclusion:

Remember this is a very personal issue. You don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to. Some well meaning people say that anyone who has same sex attraction should come out and tell people about it. This must be your decision and done when you feel it is right. You may never tell anyone but your marriage partner or your best friend. You may tell only those friends who have the same issue so you can get support. However, if you feel alone, remember you are not alone in this and there are people who understand. Some contact information for those people are given here. More resources are listed in the jacket cover of the Truth Comes Out CD and on the website http://www.truthcomesout.com and http://www.drthrockmorton.com. Please visit the website www.truthcomesout.com frequently and send us an email if you need to talk or have a question we did not answer here. If you want a copy of the Truth Comes Out CD and need more information about how to get it, contact questions@truthcomesout.com.

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'coz it is Dna or gen problem. and it is not making a lot of significance influences
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DON'T BE SUCH A STUPID JERK!
WHO LET YOURSELF FALL INTO A PERSON WHICH JUST OFFER YOU A BIG DICK
BUT HE STOLE EVERYTHING FROM YOU AND AFTER ALL, HE BROKE YOUR HEART
SUCH A BITCH WHO SELL THEIRSELF FOR A MONEY FROM DICK.

be real! i know we are attractived by big one. but dont let yourself become idiot by that thing! such as being obsessed by penis! take a look of some pictures below that i'm sure that they are so very confident with themself and look carefully, observe it rightly, there are 3 inches, 4 inches, 5 inches or 6 inches big/large, thin/small and many other size. so various kind of shapes.

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and REMEMBER THIS!
others dont understand how beautiful we are! how precious we are as a human whatever we are! we must proud of ourself!!!














"WELL, if we see in dvd of porn star has big dick,
ok some are really has big dick, but remember
some of them, also using some modern scientific
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hahaha so dont be so naive(red: be fooled/ be deceived) of this trick
believe me. look at the belowest picture i enclose here. Tim evanson-gay correspondent writing about this problem"

and da, just ignore about the advertisement of enlargement, such pill enlargement, or even vacum penis pump. it's just a fake and just give you a temporary effect(result). but could harm your kidney or any other organs around your penis.


included could injure your ureter by using the penis pump. 'coz when you do pumping,
you directly pull down and disrupt your ureter as the time go by.


so please stop being fooled by any commercials or the mistake information such as
silicon injection or penis pump. this is so dangerous for your life!

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once in Indonesia, a man with 2 children, wanna have bigger dick, so he went to a place where put the commercial in some nonprofit newspaper. he got silicon injection to his penis which operated not by a doctor or the professional. He got his dick puffed up with the great pain. so, The doctor said to his wife, you must take him to the hospital right away. do operation to get rid the silicon out of his penis.
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may be the idea why Howard make this program is becoz once, in penthouse magazine, Howard ackonwledged that he's got a small penis, so this time he make this program to explore more about penis size. ok let's take a look
the picture of some contestants:


And now, let's click on this following small avatar,
you'll watch the brief slide of this "small penis contest" video:


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please check out these next pictures:



And here are actually also pictures of myself:


"exploration on size in this article hope bring a good perception to everyone who are confuse about himself,
no matter who u are straight or gay or bisexual.

and da, as the additional, i put my own pictures in this article"


Tim Evanson [source: Stason website]

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